Bosses can be blow-hards. Kill em with kindness.

We’ve all heard the old saying, “Kill ’em with kindness.” It sounds corny, but it’s true. If your boss is rude, critical, or even downright mean, there are effective ways to turn him or her around. Bosses are people. They are also at the head of the job food chain, so to speak, thus, you want to be respectful. However, you also need to thaw your boss’ icy veneer, so that life at the office can get better.

The kindness theory goes a long way in gaining friendhsip. Give your boss service with a smile. Yes, show those pearly whites, even if it hurts to do it at first. Abraham Lincoln, a very wise man and our 16th President, once said this about friendship. We think its message is timeless:

“A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gal. So with men. If you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. Therein is a drop of honey which catches his heart, which, say what he will, is the highroad to his reason.”

Then, of course, there is the food angle. Most people enjoy being surprised with a yummy dessert or favorite snack. Remember this old proverb: “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Cooking for a man is a good way to win his affections.”

Don’t laugh. Boss man or boss woman, the right food can turn that angry expression into a warm soul. Drop a hint. Find out your boss’ favorite foods and get busy. If you can cook or bake, then a homemade snack means that much more. Surprise your boss and gift him or her with a delicious treat. Don’t wait for the holidays. Act ahead.

Lastly, be accommodating. Be flexible. Do your job to the best of your ability, especially if you are interested in climbing the ladder. If your boss asks you to take on an extra project, don’t whine. Shoulder the added responsiblity, even if it’s messing with your time and temper. You will build a more solid foundation at the workplace, and it will pay off in the future.

A little bit of kissing up goes a long way. Knowing how to do it very well is key. Winning over your boss can result in some wonderful perks. Be patient, and remember this:

“He that can have Patience, can have what he will”
Benjamin Franklin